WEDDINGS TO YOUR SATISFACTION
WEDDINGS TO YOUR SATISFACTION
Where have I known you before my friend?
Was it some other lifetime long ago?
Did we live out our allotted span
And refuse at the end to let love go?
Or if, as Apache braves believe
A soul is halved at the dawn of time
And pursues its partner through all the world,
Is your soul the missing part of mine?
I always knew if I’d only wait,
Held onto my dreams of what love should be,
Nurtured the flame of truth in my soul,
God would send the perfect love for me.
And when I see the beauty in your eyes
I feel His completeness in my heart.
You are so much more than I’d ever planned.
You are my Spirit’s long missing part.
So come companion of a million years,
Hold my hand tightly, stand close to me
As we start a new life with lovers vows.
Know you’re my friend for eternity.
Copyright 1983 Geraldine Buckley Used with permission
Give all to love; obey thy heart; friends, kindred, days, estate, good-fame, plans, credit and the Muse. Nothing refuse. Tis a brave master, let it have scope; Follow it utterly, Hope beyond hope. High and more high, it dives into noon, with wing unspent, untold intent; But it is a God, knows its own path and the outlets of the sky. It was never for the mean; It requireth courage stout, souls above doubt, valor unbending. It will reward — They shall return more than they were, and ever ascending.
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What greater thing is there for two human souls
Than to feel that they are joined together
To strengthen each other in all labor, to minister
to each other in all sorrow, to share with each other
in all gladness, to be one with each other in their
silent unspoken memories?
With no guarantees, no safety net. Trust what you feel, you take that first step.
Just close your eyes and reach for the moment before it slips by.
Here is your second chance, take it and fly.
Sooner or later we begin to understand that love is more than verses on valentines,
and romance in the movies. We begin to know that love is here and now, real and true,
The most important things in our lives. For love is the creator of our favorite memories,
And the foundation of our fondest dreams.
Love is a promise that is always kept, a fortune that can never be spent, a seed that can flourish
in even the most unlikely of places. And this radiance that never fades, this mysterious and magical joy
Is the greatest treasure of all – one known only by those who love.
MOST LIKE AN ARCH THIS MARRIAGE – By John Ciarti
“Most like an arch – two weaknesses that lean into a strength. Two fallings become firm, Two joined in abeyances become a term, naming the fact that teaches fact to mean.
Not quite that? Not much less. World as it is, What’s strong and separate falters. All I do at piling stone on stone apart from you is roofless around nothing.
Till we kiss, I am no more than upright and unset.
It is by falling in and in we make the all-bearing point, for one another’s sake, in faultless falling, raised by our own weight.”
How Do I Love Thee? – Elizabeth Barrett Browning
How do I love thee? Let me count the ways: I love thee to the depth and breadth and height My soul can reach, when feeling out of sight For the ends of Being and ideal Grace. I love thee to the level of every day’s Most quiet need, by sun and candle light, I love thee freely, as men strive for right; I love thee purely, as they turn from praise. I love thee with the passion put to use In my old griefs, and with my childhood’s faith, I love thee with a love I seemed to lose. With my lost saints – I love thee with the breath, smiles, tears, of all my life – and, if God choose, I shall but love thee better after death.
On Marriage – From Kahlil Gibran’s The Prophet
You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore. You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days. Ay, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God. But let there be spaces in your togetherness, And let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another, but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls. Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup. Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf. Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone, Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music. Give your hearts, but not into each others keeping. For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts. And stand together yet not too near together: For the pillars of the temple stand apart, And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each others shadow.
“It felt like an ordinary morning.
It began in an Ordinary way.
And then, without warning,
ordinary morning became an extraordinary day.
Hadn’t the slightest sort of inkling.
No one said love was on the way.
And then within a twinkling,
without the smallest inkling,
It became an extraordinary day.”
For there you were,
and the world stood still.
I loved you then and I always will.
At first, an ordinary morning
began in an ordinary way.
And then my heart was beating
At this ordinary meeting,
and we both knew
This was not an ordinary day.
Thoughts In A Garden – R. Gerhardt
“This is a special place, a place where people have brought beautiful living plants here, to nurture and care for them, so that they may forever surround us with the beauty we now see. And into this place where we stand, you have brought something beautiful – the relationship that is becoming your marriage. Here you are declaring it and pledging it, promising to establish and nurture it. We are aware of the special beauty between the two of you, just as we are aware of the special beauty of this place. We are with you now in this appropriate place to celebrate your relationship as it is, and as it is yet to be, and in doing so, we ask only that you remember how your life together will have the same seasons and needs as this garden. There will be growth like spring and loss like fall; there will be giving as the blossoming flower, and rest as the seed beneath the snow. All the seasons will be yours, but remember too, that gardens are not just happenings. The more wonderful the garden, the more skilled the gardener. So you will have to care deeply for the life that is yours together, and nurture it. You will have to appreciate your differences and cultivate them. You will have to take care of yourself, if for no other reason, than out of love for the other. And you will need the support of family and friends to reach full growth. As you caringly chose this place to declare your marriage, so remember its lessons for your life together through the seasons that are yours to share. And may those seasons bring you and yours joy and happiness.
I Promise by Dorothy R. Colgan
I promise to give you the best of myself, and to ask of you no more than you can give. I promise to respect you as your own person, and to realize that your interest, desires and needs are no less important than my own. I promise to share with you my time and my attention, and to bring joy, strength and imagination to our relationship. I promise to keep myself open to you, to let you see through the window of my world into my innermost fears and feelings, secrets and dreams. I promise to grow along with you, to be willing to face changes in order to keep our relationship alive and exciting. I promise to love you in good times and bad, with all I have to give and all I feel inside, in the only way I know how, completely and forever.
UNION – By Robert Fulghum
“YOU HAVE KNOWN EACH OTHER FROM THE FIRST GLANCE OF ACQUAINTANCE TO THIS POINT OF COMMITMENT.
AT SOME POINT, YOU DECIDED TO MARRY.
FROM THAT MOMENT OF YES, TO THIS MOMENT OF YES, INDEED, YOU HAVE BEEN MAKING COMMITMENTS IN AN INFORMAL WAY.
ALL OF THOSE CONVERSATIONS THAT WERE HELD IN A CAR,
OR OVER A MEAL, OR DURING LONG WALKS –
ALL THOSE CONVERSATIONS THAT BEGAN WITH,
“WHEN WE’RE MARRIED”, AND “WE WILL” –
ALL THOSE LATE NIGHT TALKS THAT INCLUDED “SOMEDAY” AND “SOMEHOW” AND “MAYBE” –
AND ALL THOSE PROMISES THAT ARE UNSPOKEN MATTERS OF THE HEART.
ALLTHESE COMMON THINGS, AND MORE, ARE THE REAL PROCESS OF A WEDDING.
THE SYMBOLIC VOWS THAT YOU ARE ABOUT TO MAKE ARE A WAY OF SAYING
TO ONE ANOTHER, “YOU KNOW ALL THOSE THINGS THAT WE’VE PROMISED AND HOPED AND DREAMED –
WELL, I MEANT IT ALL, EVERY WORD.”
LOOK AT ONE ANOTHER AND REMEMBER THIS MOMENT IN TIME.
BEFORE THIS MOMENT, YOU HAVE BEEN MANY THINGS TO ONE ANOTHER –
ACQUAINTANCE, FRIEND, COMPANION, LOVER, DANCING PARTNER, EVEN TEACHER,
FOR YOU HAVE LEARNED MUCH FROM ONE ANOTHER THESE PAST YEARS.
SHORTLY YOU SHALL SAY A FEW WORDS THAT WILL TAKE YOU ACROSS A THRESHOLD OF LIFE,
AND THINGS BETWEEN YOU WILL NEVER QUITE BE THE SAME.
FOR AFTER TODAY, YOU SHALL SAY TO THE WORLD: THIS IS MY HUSBAND. THIS IS MY WIFE.”
“We’re all a little weird. And life is a little weird.
And when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours,
we join up with them and fall into mutually satisfying weirdness
and call it love – true love.
THE RELATIVITY OF LOVE – Sam Conniff
“ONCE UPON A TIME, A LONG TIME AGO IN 1956, TO BE PRECISE, A YOUNG, YET AMBITIOUS SCIENTIST, KEEN TO UNRAVEL THE MYSTERIES AND MEANING OF LIFE, ADDRESS HIMSELF TO ALBERT Einstein.
He addressed the great scientist at an assembly of the world’s greatest minds, who had been convened to try to answer some of the world’s greatest challenges. “What,” the young scientist asked Einstein, “is the formula for success and happiness in love and life?” Einstein smiled. And a very long minute passed before he replied. And when he did, Einstein said, “if A is success.
Then you should say A=X+Y+Z, with X being hard work and Y being play.” The assembly was silent. “and what is Z” asked the young disciple. “Knowing when to keep your mouth shut” said Albert Einstein. And in front of the greatest living brains on the planet, Einstein went on, “gravitation cannot be held responsible for people falling love. Don’t seek answers where questions do not belong. How on earth can you explain in terms of chemistry and physics so important a biological phenomenon as love?” And Einstein completed his lesson in love with a simple, although not wholly scientific test: He said, (and don’t try this at home), “put your hand on a stove for a minute and it seems like an hour. Sit with the special girl, the one you’re forever meant to be with, for an hour, and it seems like a minute.” And in front of this great assembly of minds, Einstein focused on the young scientist and said, “that my young friend is relativity.”
by Linda Lee Elrod
When I met you, I had no idea
how much my life
was about to be changed…
but then, how could I have known?
A love like ours happens
once in a lifetime.
You were a miracle to me,
the one who was everything
I had ever dreamed of,
the one I thought existed
only in my imagination.
And when you came into my life,
I realized that what I
had always thought
couldn’t compare to the joy
loving you brought me.
You are a part of everything
I think and do and feel,
and with you by my side,
I believe that anything is possible.
this day gives me a chance
to thank you for the miracle of you…
you are, and always will be,
the love of my life.
Let’s Grow Old Together – Taken from poems by Denise Braxton Brown and Peggy Wrightsman
Let’s grow old together, beginning with today.
Let’s work slowly with each other and build a relationship that we can both enjoy being a part of.
Let’s share love and understanding that neither of us is perfect; we both subject to human frailties.
Let’s hold each other close and whisper through the night, pledging our love, honoring our commitment.
Let’s encourage each other to pursue our dreams, even when we’re weary from trying.
Let’s expect the best that we both have to give and still love when we fall short of our expectations.
Let’s be friends and respect each other’s individual personality and give one another room to grow.
Let’s be candid with each other and point out strengths and weaknesses.
Let’s understand each other’s personal philosophy, even if we don’t agree.
Let’s lie awake long into the night sharing our innermost secrets.
Let’s be friends as well as lovers.
Let’s laugh at time and plan with each other and wonder how we ever got along without this love we’ve found.
Let’s never take for granted these moments that we’ve shared, but always be reminded of how intensely we have learned to live, how completely we have learned to love.
Let’s grow old together and look back on life and smile.
THIS IS FRIENDSHIP
“I love you, not only for what you are, but
for what I am when I am with you.
I love you, not only for what you have
made of yourself, but for what you are making of me.
I love you for the part of me that you bring out.
I love you for putting your hand into my heaped-up heart and passing over all the frivolous and weak things that you cannot help seeing here, and drawing out into the light all the beautiful, radiant things that no one else has looked quite far enough to find.
I love you for ignoring the possibilities of the fool in me and for laying firm hold of
the possibilities of good in me.
I love you for closing your eyes to the discords in me, and adding to the music in me
by worshipful listening. . .”
TODAY’S A DAY NOT JUST FOR US By Nicholas Gordon
(A reading to honor the Parents of the Bride and Groom)
Today’s a day of love, not just for us, but for all of those who brought us here. So please excuse us if we make a fuss over you, the ones we hold most dear. In you we see the love we replicate by joining on this day our separate lives.
Our choice was neither accident nor fate, but homage to good husbands and sweet wives. We hope to make a family just like yours, and be to our children parents much like you. You have been to us wide-open doors onto a serene and peaceful view. We look to you with gratitude and pride.
What a joy to have you at our side!
I Carry Your Heart With Me – e.e. cummings
I carry your heart with me (I carry it in my heart)
I am never without it (anywhere I go you go, my dear;
and whatever is done by only me is your doing, my darling.
I fear no fate (for you are my fate, my sweet)
I want no world (for beautiful you are my world, my true)
and it’s you are whatever a moon has always meant
and whatever a sun will always sing is you
here is the deepest secret nobody knows
(here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud
and the sky of the sky of a tree called life; which grows
higher than soul can hope or mind can hide)
and this is the wonder that’s keeping the stars apart
I carry your heart (I carry it in my heart)
Oh Great Spirit whose voice I hear in the wind, whose breath gives life to all the world. Hear me; I need your strength and wisdom. Let me walk in beauty, and make my eyes ever behold the red and purple sunset. Make my hands respect the things you have made and my ears sharp to hear your voice, Make me wise so that I may understand the things you have taught my people. Help me to remain calm and strong in the face of all that comes towards me. Let me learn the lessons you have hidden in every leaf and rock. Help me seek pure thoughts and act with the intention of helping others. Help me find compassion without empathy overwhelming me. I seek strength not to be greater than my brother, but to fight my greatest enemy, myself. Make me always ready to come to you with clean hands and straight eyes. So when life fades, as the fading sunset, my spirit may come to you without shame.
Apache Wedding Blessing
Now you will feel no rain, for each will be the shelter for the other. Now you will feel no cold, for each will be the warmth for the other. Now there is no more loneliness, for now you are two people, but there is one life before you. Go now to your dwelling place, to enter into your days of togetherness. And may you days be good and long upon the earth.
God in heaven above, please protect the ones we love. We honor all you created as we pledge our hearts and lives together. We honor mother earth, and ask for our marriage to be abundant and grow stronger through the seasons; we honor fire, and ask that our union be warm and glowing with love in our hearts; we honor wind, and ask that we sail through life safe and calm as in our father’s arms; we honor water – to clean and soothe our relationship – that it may never thirst for love. With all the forces of the universe you created, we pray for harmony and true happiness as we forever grow young together. Amen.
Instructions for life in the new millennium by His Holiness the 14th Dalai Lama:
“Take into account that great love and great achievement involve great risk.
And that a loving atmosphere in your home is the foundation for your life.
Be gentle with the earth, be gentle with one another.
When disagreements come, remember always to protect the spirit of your union.
When you realize you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.”
“Love is a temporary madness.
It erupts like volcanoes and then subsides.
And when it subsides, you have to make a decision.
You have to work out whether your roots have so entwined
together that it is inconceivable you should ever part.
Because this is what love is.
Love is not breathlessness.
It is not excitement,
It is not promulgation of eternal passion.
That is just being “in love,” which any fool can do.
Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away,
And this is both an art and a fortunate accident.
Those that truly love have roots that grow towards each other underground,
And when all the pretty blossoms have fallen from their branches,
they find that they are one tree and not two.”
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