Civil

Civil Ceremony Option 1

Welcome everyone! We are gathered here today to celebrate one of life’s greatest moments, to give recognition to the worth and beauty of love, and to add our best wishes to the words that shall unite _________and _________in marriage.

______________and ____________, I would ask that you both remember to treat each other with respect, and remind yourself often of what brought you together today. Give the highest priority to the tenderness, gentleness, and kindness that your marriage deserves. When frustration and difficulty assail your marriage,  focus on what still seems right between you and not only on the part that seems wrong. This way, when clouds of trouble hide the sun in your lives and you lose sight of it for the moment, you can remember that the sun is still there. If each of you will take responsibility for the quality of your life together, it will be marked with peace and delight.

________, do you, take_______ to be your wife (partner)? Do you promise to love, honor, cherish and protect her, forsaking all others and holding only onto her?

________, do you, take_______ to be your husband (partner)? Do you promise to love, honor, cherish and protect him, forsaking all others and holding only onto him?

Ring symbolism

I _________, take you ____________as my wife. To have and to hold, in sickness and in health, for richer and for poorer, in joy and in sorrow. I promise my love to you.

I ________,take you ____________as my husband. To have and to hold, in sickness and in health, for richer and for poorer, in joy and in sorrow. I promise my love to you.

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Civil Ceremony Option 2

Welcome everyone!  We are gathered here today to celebrate one of life’s greatest moments.  To give recognition to the worth and beauty of love, and to add our best wishes to the words that shall unite __________ and __________ in marriage.

On their behalf, thank you for joining us here.  They are so grateful for your presence here with them on this very special occasion, and they want to thank you, their family and friends, for all the love and support you have given them as their relationship has gradually grown stronger and deeper, and has brought them to this commitment of marriage.

_________  and ________ have chosen a reading entitled “Union” by Robert Fulghum, which describes how they have come to this commitment.

__________  and _________  “you have known each other from the first glance of acquaintance, to this point of commitment.  At some point, you decided to marry.  From that moment of yes to this moment of yes, indeed you have been making commitments in an informal way.  All of those conversations that were held in a car, or over a meal, or during long walks – all those conversations that began with, “when we’re married,” and “we will —

All those late night talks that included “someday” and “somehow” and “maybe” and all those promises that are unspoken matters of the heart,  all these common things and more, are the real process of a wedding.

The symbolic vows that you are about to make are a way of saying to one another, “you know all those things that we’ve promised and hoped and dreamed – well, I meant it all, every word.”

Please look at one another and remember this moment in time.  Before this moment, you have been many things to one another – acquaintance, friend, companion, lover, dancing partner, even teacher, for you have learned much from on another during these past years.  Shortly, you will say a few words that will take you across a threshold of life, and things between you will never be quite the same.  For after today, you shall say to the world “this is my husband.” This is my wife.”

__________ and ___________, to be successful in this partnership, I would ask that you remind yourselves often of what brought you to this new level of commitment today.  Give the highest priority to the tenderness, gentleness  and kindness that your marriage deserves.  When frustration and difficulty assail your marriage, remember to focus on what still seems right between you, and not only on the part that seems wrong.  If each of you will take responsibility for the quality of your life together, it will be marked by peace and fulfillment.

Wedding Vows:

Will you face one another and hold hands please?

___________, do you take _________ to be your wife?  Do you promise to love, honor, cherish and respect her, forsaking al others, and being faithful to her throughout your life together?  If so, please say “I do.”

___________, do you take _________ to be your husband?  Do you promise to love, honor, cherish and respect him, forsaking all others, and being faithful to him throughout your life together?  If please say “I do.”

Exchange of rings:

I, ___________, take you ___________, as my wife, to have and to hold, in sickness and in health, for richer and for poorer, in joy and in sorrow, I promise my love to you.

I,___________, take you, ___________, as my husband, to have and to hold, in sickness and in health, for richer and for poorer, in joy and in sorrow, I promise my love to you.

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